Where had this fairy tale gone wrong? That’s what we would as ourselves if the story above happened to anyone of us. The truth is we still would not know as much as other people try to make it sound so easy for us.
Most of the times we blame fate, our blind fate, for having things like this transpire in the midst of our happy lives. We thought to ourselves that we have given it everything and it was all good and yet there would be an unknown cause of despair. We thought it was a foolish trick of nature to let happiness dangle right in front of our noses and then suddenly be taken back. We lost our faith in ourselves, and in love.
Out of bitterness we also take it out on our partner. We tell ourselves we’ve been lied to and our trust had been betrayed. We blame it all on him and thought that everything he said was just a lie. In our bitterness we would even come up with the idea that even those happy moments we shared was a bigger lie. We harbour resentment against him, and lose faith in love.
And of course there’s absolutely no doubt that we would as well blame ourselves. Worse, we thought we lost our sense of reasoning for having not seen what was coming or having allowed it to happen. We’d sometimes take it out on ourselves for being stupid to be led into a trick of debauchery and lose our faith in love.
Where had this fairy tale gone wrong? There lies a lot of possibilities. We might have gotten involved with an ambivalent god, or the dangerous kind. It could also be possible that we only created an illusion of romantic grandeur. Sometimes when people are so in love with the thought if love they get blinded from reality and seem to be unaware of that fact that the other is just not as madly in love.
Look at it this way. You were in love with your boyfriend, madly, that you thought he always makes you giddy and exhilarated every time you were together. That was what you thought and you have created an illusion of a fairy tale between you and him that you have take one fact for granted, he just merely likes you. Reality check and it bites hard, really. You did not know that maybe he just didn’t have the slightest hint of that madly-in-love-with-you-thing-i-could-reach-the-stars-right-now that you thought he felt. Maybe his feelings had just not evolved yet the way you wanted it.
That was where the problem had started to arise. You could not stop yourself from being deluded because you wanted him so bad. He gets pressured eventually tries to find a way out. And you only get disappointed each time he could not seem to reciprocate your feelings or show you how you thought he really felt. You end up thinking that he broke your heart when the fact of the matter is you led him to a point of no return. He got scared of the big picture you created for the two of you which he might have not been ready for in the meantime. You failed to give him room to grow. Realize that.
Or maybe he was just not in love with you and you did not realize that because you were too busy falling in love with him. Sometimes we can be that stupid not to realize one fact like it. We fall, we get busy falling and then we crash because we failed to see the hard ground of the truth.
If he happened to have been the dangerous kind and there was no sign for you to be aware of and you thought you fell in love, snap out of it. There is no castle at the end of the long and winding road for you with the dangerous kind, only long and winding road and a dead-end. Best way to know, ask around and don’t be fooled by words. And it’s really quite easy to notice the dangerous ones because they have quite a reputation. You would know, you would feel it. No extra sensory perception required. He might not have necessarily crossed his fingers when he vouched his love for you but you can feel it if he was lying. Unless you were stupid of course still busy falling in love. And if not once any of his promises came to life and he could not stick to his words, get out of it immediately or you will only hurt yourself worse. You deserve more than that. Snap out of the fairy tale.
If you cannot help but cry when it happened, just cry and be sad but give yourself the chance to get over him and the pain. Never lose faith in love. It maybe just us who falters but love never does.
Love’s strength is immeasurable. Fairy tales may go wrong but if you hold on to love you may find out that it’s more than just rock-steady.
Find love. Make room for love to grow. Nurture it with faith.